20 plus psychological tricks to read people like an open book. You’ve probably wondered how convenient life would be if you could read other people’s minds. Some people use their intuition for this but if you’re not so perceptive there’s only one choice left learning to read people’s body language. We get over a 55% of information through nonverbal communication like facial expressions gestures and other body movements which can be a very good tool to read people and know what is going on in their minds. We invite you to pay attention to the signals that other people send without even realizing it that way you’ll always have the upper hand in conversations and read people’s mind.
1. Closing their eyes
If a person is talking to you and closing their eyes, you should know that they’re trying to hide from the outside world. This doesn’t mean that the person is scared of you. Most likely they’ve mentally clocked out of the conversation with you and if they close their eyes you disappear.
2. Covering their mouth
This is a leftover from childhood. Do you remember covering your mouth when you didn’t want to tell mom what happened to that broken vase? Well this habit follows us to adult life. A few fingers upon or even a fist near the mouth helps us hold back the words we don’t want to let out. Sometimes this gesture is even disguised by fake coughing.
3. Chewing on their glasses
If you see someone chewing on the earpieces of their glasses, try having a heart-to-heart with them and cheering them up. They’re definitely subconsciously worried about something. They’re trying to feel safe like they did when their mom was breastfeeding them. By the way a pencil, pen, cigarette and even chewing gum in the mouth can indicate the same thing.
4. Presenting their face
Generally speaking this gesture is used to attract people of the opposite sex. When we rest our chins on our hands, we’re sort of presenting our faces as if to say “This is me. Enjoy as much as you want”. Man should remember this gesture if they want to catch the moment and compliment the lady at the right time.
5. Rubbing their chin
This is what people do when they’re trying to make a decision. They might be looking down up to the side or anywhere. They don’t even know what they’re looking at because they’re deep in thought. So if you see your friend doing this ask them what’s on their mind.
6. Crossed arms
This is one of the most popular gestures and it’s no wonder many people feel really comfortable in this position because it subconsciously shuts them off from others. We often use this gesture when we’re irritated by something. Crossed arms are a clear sign that a person is not feeling it today. If you want to talk to someone making an X with their arms across their chest forget about it.
7. Fixing their posture
When a woman wants a man to notice her, she tries to present herself in the best way possible. She straightens her back to emphasize her breasts and she may also cross her legs. Hands together and hanging down are a sign of attention and huge interest in a person.
8. Leaning forward
When people like someone and want to get to know them, they usually lean forward. In this position the legs might stay put but the body intuitively moves forward. You can really notice this body movement in a group of people, a person subconsciously leans in the direction of the man or woman they like. So next time you’re at a party sit back or forward if you’ve got your eye on someone and enjoy the show.
9. Leaning back
Now let’s look at the opposite situation. If someone sits back in their chair they’re showing that they’re tired of the conversation and don’t want to keep it going. They might feel uncomfortable in the presence of the other person. Next time you’re in a restaurant see if you can spot people who are not so into the conversation they’re having at the moment.
10. Swinging from their heels to their toes
That’s right. Not only kids do it. This shows that a person feels anxious about something however if a person doesn’t swing back and forth but bounces up and down on their toes. It might be a sign that they’re feeling confident if they look happy and are smiling this guests a safe bet.
11. Rubbing their hands
It’s believed that the hands broadcast what the head is thinking. Rubbing the hands together generally means that a person has a positive feeling about something and they’re hopeful. We do this when we’re thinking about some positive outcomes in the near future. A good gesture next time you’re in Vegas
12. The glove handshake
While you’re shaking hands with someone, if that person takes your wrist with the free hand they’re showing that they’re trustworthy, friendly and honest. This style of shaking hands is popular among politicians but you should remember that this handshake is often perceived as an invasion of privacy. Only people who are close to each other do it genuinely. So don’t let the politicians fool you
13. A handshake with a palm facing the floor versus facing the ceiling
A person holding out their hand with the palm facing downward is demonstrating their superiority and power. This knowledge can turn out useful if you want to subtly show your boss that you respect their dominance. Its okay, feed their ego if it means getting on their good side. At the same time if you’re holding someone’s hand from below you’re telling them that you’re ready to help.
14 Cupping someone’s hands during a handshake
If someone cups your hand between both of theirs, placing their free palm on the back of your hand, this lets you know that they sympathize with you. But this is true only if a person does it instantly. However, if you’ve been shaking hands already and only then does the other person put their hand this may be a sign that they’re telling you who’s in charge here.
15. A handshake with a touch
People sometimes touch others with their free hands. They might touch a forearm, elbow or back, this invasion of your personal bubble means that someone isn’t getting enough attention or communication from others. The closer the touch to the torso, the more the person needs company. So what’s your handshaking style? If it’s one of those we’ve just mentioned, comment below. By the way if you want to learn how to make people agree with you please comment below and we will share how to in our next post.
16. Fixing their tie
The meaning of this gesture depends on the situation. If a man does this near an attractive woman, it probably means that he likes her. However, this gesture may also indicate that a person isn’t feeling comfortable. Maybe he has lied or just wants to get away from wherever he is right now.
17. Collecting imaginary lint
This is a so called displacement gesture. People often use it to express that they disagree with something, but they don’t want to voice their disagreement. In other words, they don’t express their opinion clearly but show it in a hidden way.
18. Putting their feet on the desk
This gesture can mean a lot of things if you can read people. Bad manners, disrespect, trying to show who is the boss or even concern for one’s health. However, psychologists believe that even if you feel comfortable in this position, you shouldn’t sit like this anywhere but at home. Please check here to know 6 things you should never do on your work computer
19. Mounting a chair like a horse
A chair is not a horse and even though it’s back sort of looks like a shield, it serves a different purpose. Many people are irritated by others sitting like this because they feel the aggression. Intuitively this position is popular among dominant people. If you don’t want to seem weak, keep standing while they’re riding their imaginary horse.
20. Playing with their shoe
Crossed legs are one of the most attractive ways that women can send and if a woman is playing with her shoe, this indicates that she’s feeling calm and relaxed. It also means that she’s trying to draw your attention to her legs. So gentlemen this is your green light.
21. Eye contact
The eyes are the windows to the soul and a great helper of communication if you really want to read people. You can understand all of a person’s thoughts and feelings in their eyes. Lovers look each other in the eye hoping to see enlarged pupils. In fact, it’s very easy to notice because when someone is attracted to another, their pupils can be up to 4 times bigger than their normal state. By the way, if a person is angry, their eyes look beady because their pupils get really small. There are different types of eye contact and each of them can help us a lot to read people if we know how to decode them. Avoiding eye contact, typically, if a person won’t look you in the eye means they’re being dishonest with you. But it also may serve as a sign of their discomfort. Thirdly people often look to decide if they’re doing mental math or searching for the answer to a difficult question. Unbroken staring on the other hand, if a person won’t avert their eyes from yours they’re likely trying to intimidate you and make you feel uncomfortable or the person who’s keeping such persistent eye contact is lying to you but they’re aware of the fact that breaking eye contact is lying so they’re trying super hard not to break it. If they’re overdoing it in the process we really blame them. A lot of blinking, a person blinks on average from 6 to 10 times a minute but if this number is higher, there’s a good chance that they’re attracted to their conversation partner so it’s a sign of subconscious flirting.
Please let us know what psychological approaches do you use to read people. Share your secrets in the comments below we won’t tell anybody.